Sizing each other up?

Well, it seems to me that one of the first things you notice about another woman is her weight. Her clothes. Her hair. Her makeup. Her shoes. Her bag. Her jewelry. The outward dressing. You take note of the style, and expense with which she has clothed herself. And you make a judgement call. Is she like me? Do we have anything in common? Will we be friends or just acquaintances? You notice her hands and her voice. And then you notice her eyes. All of this your brain processes in just seconds. And you make a judgement call. You decide in seconds how to approach her and what you want the outcome to be. I believe that there is an assessment being done on a spiritual level as well. 
Do we have the same Spirit in us?