You go to that church too?!?

We were at a birthday party the other night. The kids all had tons of fun. I was looking for someone to sit and chat with. I talked with a grandma, and a few others but there were two women in particular I wanted to chat with. One has a brother who has started a church in a really poor part of town. She and I had chatted a couple of nights before at a school function. Very briefly, just enough for her to relate the basics as to how he is doing. It sounds like he could really use some support but she was quick to inform me that he wants the people to "own" their church and community. They have about 50 people. This time I wanted to see if she would share any more about her brother's church but more importantly I was hoping she would tell me about herself. I am really curious about her and where her heart is. We ended up talking about some needs at the school our children attend. She and her family were sitting with some others they knew from the sports teams their kids are active with. I'm still curious. My spirit says there is something there, but is it strong and healthy? And is it OK for me to wonder?
The other woman works for a fairly well known humanitarian organization and her husband too is working to establish a church. They had tried a home based church last year, but I had the feeling it was proving very difficult with their active family. We discovered that we attend the same church, different services. We had a pretty nice conversation. I hope she will call. I am interested in her perspective on "What Does a Christian Woman Looks Like." Do Christian women reach out to each other outside of Sunday services, seminars or Christian Conferences? Shouldn't we care about each other's spiritual life as well as the physical life that consumes our days?